"This is the day the Lord has made, let us rejoice and be glad in it." Psalms 118:24

Monday, October 10, 2011

Because we said yes....

we are wishing our Little J a VERY happy 2nd birthday!!!  Can't even imagine you not a part of our family, you crack us up daily.  Your vocabulary is incredible, using words like because and actually appropriately, saying things like "move back out of my way momma" at the playground and "I'm talkin to you" when I guess I am not listening too closely!  You definitely are "spirited" (aka strong willed or sometimes downright stubborn but this will keep you out of trouble when you are a teenager)!  We love you so and feel so blessed to be called mom, dad and big sis!

Saturday, October 8, 2011

My "special needs"

As Tim and I made the decision to complete this adoption, that we started in 2008, through the waiting child program, it’s a rather uncomfortable feeling deciding what “special needs” we would consider.  I happened to come across this blog and she captured the feeling and thoughts so well, that I am stealing her post and modifying it slightly (and just for disclosure, I did ask her if I could copy it).

Here is what she discovered and I so totally agree with:  there was no "special need" on any listing that outdid my own "special needs." So, it would only be fair for any prospective adoptive child to be given the same information on this possible mother with full disclosure of all imperfections.

My file would read something like this:
She goes by the name "Karen." She is considered an "older parent" (way over the age of 40) although there are no grants available. Should you choose her, it is with the understanding that by the time you are in middle school, others will think she is your grandmother.

She needs reading glasses to read you a bedtime story and may not be able to stand upright after sitting Indian style at a tea party.

She has many well-meaning behaviors that may cause extreme irritation. For example, she will take millions of photos of you but has no actual photography skills. You will have to put up with her arranging and rearranging, the auto-flashing and shutter-clicking, but you'll only have out-of-focus pics with your eyes closed to show for your patience.

Small toys not put away will mysteriously disappear. She can't stand "happy meal" items that didn't make anyone happy and you should note that these items are quickly donated or discarded.

She will sing you lullabies in spite of the fact that she cannot carry a tune.

She will want to dress you until you go to college. This may not be an issue in the early years, but by the time you are a teen, you will be wondering if you can escape through the air-conditioning vents of the dressing room during a shopping trip gone bad.

She will occasionally go freaky with the food she serves--going gluten-free, low-sugar, wholly whole wheat, and completely organic. You may try to trade up lunch items at school but no one will want a protein bar that tastes like cardboard in exchange for their Little Debbie snack cake. And then there are moments that she passes a Krispy Kreme establishment and the "hot donuts" sign is on. You should not call her a hypocrite if you'd like to partake of the white-flour, sugar-glazed manna that she is about to inhale.

She will often seem completely unfair. There will be movies and music and TV shows that everyone is allowed to see and hear, and you will be the ONLY one not watching/listening. If you ask why, she will simply respond with "Not Philippians 4:8 standards." ("Whatever things are good, pure, lovely, think on these things. . . .")

You will be fine if you need this mom to provide help in proofing papers, some simple math, a common sense answer, but you will up a creek without a scientific calculator if you need math help past the 6th grade, science help, history help…...you get the idea.

She is a strong advocate for enjoying God's creation. She will pull over on the side of the road to behold a sunset, a rainbow, or wildflowers growing among asphalt. She will make everyone stop what they are doing to hear the birds singing outside and make you watch butterflies instead of TV. She will insist that you run outside at night to marvel at the stars and require that everyone pose for a picture with the first flower of springtime (which will no doubt capture you not smiling and cut off part of your head).

She has only a few specialties that she makes, lasagna, tuna noodle casserole, goulash, chili and chocolate chip cookies.  Thankfully she does very little of the cooking.

She absolutely cannot handle whining or pouting. If there are words/sounds/looks that even hint at ungratefulness, you will be forced to select an item from her "consequence jar." On this little slip of paper, you will read your consequence (for example, wiping down baseboards and window blinds) for attempting to voice your concern. It's her sick way of teaching you a lesson while having you do a chore that she hates to do herself.

She suffers from Broken Record Syndrome. For example, you will hear phrases such as "good behavior equals privileges, bad behavior equals consequences" repeated till you think your ears are going to be permanently damaged.

She suffers from pre-menopausal mush brain, meaning she will not remember what she told you yesterday (which may sometimes work in your favor).
No matter how hard she tries, she will never understand what it feels like to be taken from your home country, to lose the only family and friends you have ever known, to have to learn a new language, adapt to a new culture, and acquire a taste for new food.
She will often feel overwhelmed in caring for your physical and emotional needs and wonder if she will ever be the mother you deserve. She won't understand that some days you need special care and other days you just want to be treated like everyone else.

Sometimes she gets tired, sometimes she feels stress, sometimes she loses her patience, sometimes she says things that she wishes she could take back.

She is a sinner, in need of a Savior, living in a fallen world, raising children who are sinners, in need of a Savior, living in a fallen world. And this means that she is flawed, that she will make mistakes, that she will need forgiveness.

And this is why she often feels so unworthy to be the mother of two precious children God has already entrusted her with and why she is so grateful that He is bringing you to our family.
Waiting for you........

Thursday, October 6, 2011

BIGGER week!

More success for Little J, she stayed dry all day at daycare!  Since she turns two on Monday, I'm not sure I will actually follow through and put her in big girl undies, but the next weekend we have home I think the time has come! 

I'm done with my crutches so my knee is progressing well.  Flexion is already to 110 degrees! 

And on Monday, we requested the honor to become the parents of these sweet cheeks:

I knew when I saw them she would fit right in.  It never happens how you are expecting, but she is clearly the cutie pie for us and God has made it as clear as Lake Superior!  We are super excited and can't wait to bring her home!!  How can anyone be so blessed to have three girls with such kissable cheeks?!

That means our Vacation giveaway will be helping us bring mei mei home early next year!!  There is still time to enter and with this unexpected development, we're going to extend the drawing deadline to 11/3!

Remember, the grand prize is Christmas at Boyne Mountain!!
2nd prize:  $100 gift card to the Apple Store
3rd prize:  Two adorable pettiskirts, donated by Dreamspun Shop.  Size 3-5 and size 6-8

Check out the pettiskirts, modeled by none other than Big J and Little J!

The girls will be very sad to see the skirts leave but we hope their new home will enjoy them so much!  Perhaps Santa will remember how much fun they had modeling them.....
Just as a reminder, you donation of:
$10 = 1 Entry
$25 = 4 Entries
$50 = 10 Entries
$75 = 17 Entries
$100 = 25 Entries

And if you feel led to give more:

For a Donation of:
$125 = 35 Entries
$150 = 50 Entries
$175 = 70 Entries
$200 = 100 Entries
And the name of the newest kissable, chubby cheeked cutie pie??  Go ahead and guess!!